About APT Counseling Resources

Our Philosophy

At APT Counseling Resources, we believe understanding ourselves is the key to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Many of the challenges in adult romantic relationships stem from non-conscious behaviors shaped by early childhood experiences or innate personality traits.

Our Approach

We believe many issues that damage adult romantic relationships arise because one or both partners do and say things that are hurtful without conscious thought. These “non-conscious behaviors” are driven either by hidden beliefs from our early childhood or by personality traits over which most have little control.

Our self-assessments help you bring your non-conscious behaviors to the surface and discover their origin. They do this by asking you to reflect on your own behaviors and experiences. This self-knowledge allows you to gain a measure of control over these behaviors.
When both partners complete the self-assessments, the positive impact of understanding yourself and your partner is greatly increased. The self-assessment results point to specific areas where concrete actions can be taken to resolve current conflict and prevent future issues.

Our foundational belief

If people can bring their non-conscious behaviors to the conscious level; THEN they increase their chances of controlling them AND this can result in better adult romantic relationships.

Our tools for healing relationships

By taking our self-assessments, you and your counselor can bring these non-conscious behaviors to the surface where they can be more readily managed. The end result is greater understanding of yourself and your partner; a level of understanding that allows you to resolve existing conflicts and avoid new ones.

"Beyond Traditional Assessments: Our Unique Approach"

APT self-assessments offer a deeper and more personalized analysis of attachment styles and personality traits than typical online quizzes, which often provide simplistic, surface-level results.

Our assessments allow counselors access to individual client responses,facilitating tailored analyses to address specific relationship issues. This helps counselors understand client behaviors and relationship patterns more comprehensively.

Frequently Asked Questions

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1. What are attachment styles?

We all want to be close to people who make us feel safe. If that close relationship is threatened, we respond in the things we say and do according to patterns we acquired when we were very young. These patterns are called “attachment styles.” For example, someone with an “Anxious” attachment style might anxiously seek reassurance from their partner if they feel that person may be losing interest in them.

There are four attachment styles. Most people have a dominant style; but they may also have a few behaviors that reflect the other styles.

2. What are personality traits?

Personality traits are patterns of human behavior that describe how we interact with others, how we process information, how we approach tasks and activities and the types of emotions we feel and express. Everyone has the same traits, but not to the same extent. Take “agreeableness” for example. Some people have a lot of agreeableness; while others have very little. (We sometimes call these people “disagreeable.”)

3. Why should I learn about my attachment style or personality traits?

Your attachment style and personality traits produce what we call “non-conscious behaviors.” These are things we say and do without conscious thought. Most of the time, these non-conscious behaviors are harmless. But, sometimes, they can damage relationships with people we care about. So, it’s a good idea to understand the origins of our non-conscious behaviors and to bring those behaviors to the conscious level so we can gain control over them. This will go along way toward ensuring our relationships stay healthy and happy.

4. How can the APT self-assessments help me?

When we know the attachment styles we use most often; and when we know the relative strength of the different personality traits that make us who we are, we understand ourselves and our behavior at a much greater level. It is then much easier to exercise greater control over our behaviors.

The greatest benefit comes when you AND your partner learn about your own and your partner’s attachment styles and personality traits. A common situation is one partner is more extraverted than the other. (The APT self-assessment will make this clear, if this is the case for you and your partner.) The extravert is likely to talk more and listen less. But, once the extraverted partner is aware of the strength of this trait, he or she is much better equipped to control it; even to the point of becoming a good listener.

5. Do I need a counselor to benefit from the self-assessments?

In some cases, individuals can learn enough about themselves from the self-assessments to make improvements in their important relationships. But, the effort to understand and gain control over our non-conscious behaviors is difficult. Having a caring and qualified person to help you interpret your self-assessment results and to work with you to develop practical plans for addressing the more important issues can be extremely valuable.